If you are fighting a lot or withdrawing in
your relationship with your significant other it may mean that you and your
partner may need to learn new skills.
Communication skills without being
triggered and acting defensively is hard to do but learnable. The use of āIā message, relaxation,
effectively expressing own thoughts and feelings and self differentiation have
proven to help couples to prevent escalation or withdrawing. Poor communication about parenting, money,
values and more can lead to withdrawing, frequent arguments or maybe even
separation or divorce. An objective,
well-trained therapist can help resolve couples problems and increase effective
communication.
Tips in addition to couples therapy may be:
- agree ahead of time to take timed breaks from the argument to cool down. Let your partner know that you need a cool down time and that you will resume the conversation at a specific time.
- use āIā messages; "I feel (blank) when you do (blank)"
- grow your own self awareness and interests; take time for yourself and what you find interesting, are skillful in and find enjoyable
- find time to enjoy each other with the agreement that certain topics not to be discussed during that time
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